Many times with this disease we focus on things that we simply cannot change. Things we cannot fix.
They took a bridge out close to us, about fifteen years ago. I along with others were so concerned that by removing this bridge many people would die because of added response time to EMS or Law Enforcement.
To this day, not one person has been put in harms way because of the closing of that bridge. But I remember as if it was yesterday, we were certain people would die.
We were focused on and worried about something that may not happen, and never did.
You have to deal in the right now. Today. This morning. Worrying about what will happen next year, or when the patient goes from one stage to another is just a waste of time.
In reality I don't know how today will go, let alone next week, next month, or next year.
You cannot fix anything. You can adjust to things. You can elevate things that will surly cause something bad to happen.
Just the simple thing or removing all throw rugs from your home can lesson the chance of a fall.
If you think things are bad now, compound what you are going through, and add in a broken hip in the mix.
Then you have real problems. A broken hip is indeed a medical emergency. And just getting through the initial part is stressful.
Calling the squad, keeping the patient still on the floor. Trying to explain what is going on, what is going to happen.
And then dealing with emergency personal when they arrive. You will hear that all EMS and public safety workers are trained in dealing with dementia.
All this is, is a false sense of security. I did both EMS and Law Enforcemet for over 24 years and I can tell you that they are not trained "properly" to deal with a dementia patient.
If you are ever in a situation where you need to call 911 for medical assistance, when they arrive treat them as if they know nothing about dementia. Chances are they don't.
So, do what you can today. Right now. Try to make things more safely friendly in your home. This isn't rocket science.
Worrying about what is coming, instead of what is already here is a mistake. A mistake you will likely pay for over and over again.
If dealing with dementia was easy for the patient or the caregiver none of us would be here. If dementia was temporary we would not be here.
If we could "fix" anything or any part of this disease, we would not be here. But we can't.
And that indeed is why we are here. And will be until the very day dementia itself is a Memory...