For example you can go to the Alzheimer Association site and call their 800# to get in touch with a local chapter in your area.
You can all crises hot line. What you deal with day in and day out is indeed a crisis.
There is Adult Protective Services if you feel your loved one is in a situation where they need some sort of intervention. Be it the way they are being treated, not being cared for properly, being abused, or just living in a filthy atmosphere.
There are Elder Law Attorneys. This should be one of the first people you call when you get the news of dementia. They can sit you down and explain what you need to do, how you need to do it, and when it needs to be done.
There are legals ways to protect ones assets, and an elder law attorney specialize in these kind of things.
There are what is known as Ombudsman. These are volunteers who work on the behalf of the patient. They are the ones you call if your loved one is in a facility and for whatever reason your problems are not being addressed by the people in charge there.
They work for you, the family member, and the patient. If you think something like abuse or they are not being cared for and you have brought this to the attention of the administrators at the facility, yet nothing is done...Ombudsman is who you need to call.
Just google them, and you will find a local number to reach them.
And there are first and foremost your local churches who will get involved to help anyway they can. Most don't care if you are a member or if you even attend their church.
They are there to help. Financially in some cases, mentally in others, and of course spiritually. This disease can get the best of any of us. There are agencies that are there to help.
Hospice is another great agency when the time comes. And if you don't know when that is, just call them. They will gladly come to your home and talk of the options and when it is time for them to be involved.
And of course Support Groups. This is a biggie. The problem is a lot of times you simply can't get to these because of no one to care for your loved one while you are gone.
This is where the most important asset you have can be used. Memory People. We are here 24/7, 365 days a year. Someone is always here to help you in your time of need.
We can't fix anything, but we can offer Support. And on more than one occasion we have contacted other agencies for our members. We have made the calls they just can't.
We have contacted groups in their area to help them. And we are here just for Support. We all are in this together. And with all the resources out there, you have to be informed of them.
And use them. Don't talk about using them. Call. The call you make could be the most important one you ever make in your life. You have to when it's time to ask for help.
That is the number one thing you need to know as a caregiver. Know when you can know longer do this alone and what recourses you have to help you...